TELL THEM WHY YOU MAD GIRL!

“To all the girls out there who have felt the sting of disappointment ,rejection and the weight of

unmet expectations” -This is for you.

Hey Girl Hey! If you’re a hairstylist like me, you understand the passion and creativity that come

with styling hair. But there’s something even more beautiful that binds us together—the

unbreakable sisterhood within the beauty industry. In this world, I’ve encountered incredible

women—bold, resilient, and stunning souls—who strive to thrive in a society that falsely equates

their value with their outward appearance. Let’s be real, maybe we’ve been bamboozled!

Listening to their stories of triumphs, heartaches, and those unforgettable moments has made

me realize something profound. Beneath our unique paths, we share striking similarities and a

deep desire to express ourselves authentically. So, why are you mad, girl? Maybe it’s because

you fell for the illusions, the drama, the fairy tale that promised you the world. You invested your

heart, expecting a return, only to be met with rejection and disappointment. Trust me, I’ve been

there too.

I remember a memory from my high school days. It was a low-key picnic in the park with a

guy who presented himself as a “Decent Good Guy.

” I was excited, imagining a romantic

rendezvous. But instead, it turned into a moment of manipulation and broken promises. You

probably know how the story goes…

Looking back at that moment, I can’t help but feel a mix of emotions—upset, rejection, even

slightly heartbroken. He didn’t live up to some of his promises, especially when it came to taking

our relationship seriously. Instead, he did the bare minimum, just enough to prevent me from

feeling unwanted and devastated. But let’s be real, I experienced moments of feeling unwanted

and was devastated, and for years, I held him responsible and imprisoned him in my

compartment of anger.

But on my Say Yes Journey, I’ve learned something profound—I’m not really upset at him, I’m

upset at myself. It takes courage to admit it, but during his begging and pleading at that fake

picnic, I went against my own values and desires. Why? Because I wanted to be liked and

accepted by him. After all, he was considered upper class, and in my eyes, it was an honor to

have his attention. Revisiting this memory forced me to make a conscious choice. I had to

accept my role, whether I was fully aware of it at the time or not. In that moment, I went against

myself, and that’s where my anger stems from. I was upset at someone for not looking out for

me, when in reality, they were only looking out for themselves. And maybe, just maybe, I should

have done the same.

I get it, I understand why you’re mad. If I only looked at it from one perspective, the

perspective of rejection and pain, I would be mad too. But there’s another way to approach it, a

way that allows for growth and healing. I can choose to see the lesson and potentially release

years of suppressed emotions about an experience that I can’t undo. It’s about understanding

that we’re all doing our best, including him. He was doing his best to win what he desired, and I

didn’t realize that at the time. Perhaps he liked me too, but we were simply on different pages

when it came to desire and what we both wanted to experience. This is what happens when we

settle and don’t get what we truly want—we tend to blame the other person.

Listen, We have to find our voice and speak up. It’s a process, and until we do, we may

continue to feel that anger. So, tell them why you’re mad, girl. But also remember that there’s apath to healing and understanding. By embracing our experiences as lessons and recognizing

our own responsibility in them, we can begin to let go and find our voice. It’s time to release the

blame and resentment, and instead, focus on our own growth and self-empowerment. We can’t

change the past, but we can change how we perceive it and how we allow it to impact our

present and future.

Let’s rise above the past, rewrite our stories and embrace a future where we stand strong,

confident, unapologetically true to ourselves and create the relationship that we deserve. Let’s

choose healing over anger. Let’s choose self-discovery and finding our voice. And let’s

remember that we have the power to create a future where we honor our desires, speak our

truth, and never settle for less than what we truly deserve.

T ell them why you’re mad, girl, but also tell yourself that you’re ready to heal and rise

above.

-SayYesT oU