Excuses Are Dream Killers

Hey girl hey, let’s talk about excuses. We all make them, whether it’s to skip the gym or avoid an

uncomfortable conversation. But when it comes to our relationships, excuses can be the very

thing that prevents us from reaching our dreams and living the life we truly desire. I have a

saying that excuses are dream killers. They can make us settle for less in our relationships, both

with ourselves and others.

For a long time, I prided myself on being a patient and understanding person, especially in

romantic relationships and close friendships. I was a bit too understanding in some areas, but

lacked understanding in other areas. I would often make excuses for others’ behavior, believing

that I was being compassionate and understanding. But over time, I began to realize that I was

actually doing a disservice to myself and those around me.

When I finally grew tired of feeling let down and disappointed, I realized that I had been

mislabeling my behavior as understanding and supportive when in reality, I was just making

excuses. Excuses allowed me to remain comfortable and avoid the thought of things changing

or not knowing what the future held if I were to speak up. That was my real excuse.

When we pride ourselves on being accommodating and understanding, we are also denying

ourselves the truth about what’s been on the surface. No one is consistently the same all the

time, and that’s okay. But we have to remove the labels that we use to identify others and our

behaviors. The reality is, when we disguise our behavior as understanding but in reality, it is

rooted in excuses, we are doing the same to ourselves.

It is important for us to recognize that anything we allow and accept from others, we are also

allowing and accepting it from ourselves. We must realize that it is not our responsibility to put a

band-aid on someone’s behavior so it can make it easier to live and love blindly and in denial.

It’s easy to blame others for their behavior and label them as unreliable or dishonest, but the

truth is, we may be responsible for our own feelings of disappointment and frustration. By

allowing unhealthy behavior to continue without consequence, we’re unconsciously saying that

it’s okay for others to treat us poorly.

I also had to face the fact that I was making excuses for my own behavior and accepting less

than I deserved in my relationships. It wasn’t easy to swallow, but I knew I had to make a

change and stop taking emotional painkillers to numb the discomfort.

Remember, when we make excuses for others under the guise of being understanding, we’re

only accepting the bare minimum in our lives. It’s time to take responsibility for our own

happiness and set healthy boundaries in our relationships.Here are three things to look out for when identifying excuses under the guise of being

understanding:

● Repeated patterns of behavior: If you find that you keep making excuses for the same

behavior repeatedly, it’s likely that you’re not really being understanding, but rather

making excuses for someone’s behavior.

● Ignoring your own needs and feelings: If you’re constantly putting someone else’s needs

and feelings above your own, to the point where it’s causing you discomfort or pain, then

it’s possible that you’re using the excuse of being understanding to justify putting up with

behavior that isn’t good for you.

● Lack of accountability: If you find yourself always blaming the other person for their

behavior, without taking any responsibility for your own part in the situation, then you

might be using the excuse of being understanding as a way to avoid facing the reality of

the situation.

Acknowledging our responsibility in making excuses for others and ourselves can be

challenging for a few reasons. It can be difficult to admit that we have been enabling unhealthy

behavior and tolerating less than we deserve. It may also require us to confront our fears,

insecurities, and limiting beliefs, we can start taking action towards creating the life we truly

desire. This means setting healthy boundaries in our relationships and not settling for less than

we deserve. It also means being accountable for our own behavior and not using the excuse of

being understanding as a way to avoid taking responsibility for our part in the situation.

When we stop making excuses and start taking action towards creating the life we truly desire,

we begin to attract people and experiences that align with our highest selves. We begin to feel

more confident, empowered, and fulfilled. We also start to realize that the only thing standing in

the way of our dreams is ourselves.

So, hey girl hey, it’s time to stop making excuses and start saying yes to you! Say yes to your

dreams, your desires, and your worth. Say yes to setting healthy boundaries, speaking up for

yourself, and taking responsibility for your own happiness. Say yes to creating the relationships

and life you truly desire.

Remember, excuses are dream killers. They can prevent us from reaching our full potential and

living the life we truly desire. But when we say yes to ourselves and start taking action towards

our dreams, we become unstoppable. So, let’s say yes to

U and create the life we truly desire.